Archive | September, 2014

Musings of a Broken Heart

23 Sep

By Nwanatifu Nwaco

A relationship in which the partners have a 100% match is bound to become routine and dull due to the lack of things they want to build on together. It is the differences between people that enable them relate to each other and keep the flames in their hearts burning to always strive to please the other. There’s more to a relationship than just love. It’s not all about being compatible in their likes and dislikes. People have been in love and still separated because they fail to discuss about what they disagree to agree about regarding  the goals, aspirations and expectations of what their relationship is all about and where it’s getting to. Every long lasting relationship has elements of mutual sacrifices individually arrived at by both partners.

 Too often we’re unwilling to give the other the chance to be who they truly are. All we need to do is accept the reality that the other is different and work on how we can live happily with them without leading them into self-denial. One should be able to give up certain characteristics if they keep coming in the way of how they relate with the other.  It’s not a crime to once in a while indulge in the boring, silly and amusing passions of each other, like cooking together or watching a game or TV series together. If you spend more time noticing the flaws in the character of your partner, than you do over the beautiful things that make them the amazing and all exceptional person they are or can be, then you will always downgrade them as underachieving, no matter how hard they invest effort and patience to live up to you.

We often are so engulfed in a cloak of pride and self righteousness that we hurt our partner sometimes involuntary without stopping to think if we could handle the same weight of hurt being directed at them with the same vigor we serve it. Do we accept reproach for our errors? Do we criticize others the same way we will tolerate them criticize us? How often do we apologize for the pain we cause to others or that which they suffer on our behalf? It’s unhealthy for the growth of your relationship if you are always the victim and the guilty party making an apology or being apologized to. You have to give what you want to receive, that includes care, love and respect.

Emotional and material security is what gives future to a relationship, if your partner knows they can rely and confide in you when they’re going through a difficult phase that feeling will be reciprocated. It is a source of encouragement to keep going, knowing that it’s the two of you against the world, even when both of you are wrong and the whole world is right, you’ll find delight standing up for yourselves-that’s why young lovers often elope when their relationship is being disapproved. 

Even before marriage is ever proposed, it’s already occurred in the heart and the rest is but a mere social formality. With the exception of nuptial anniversaries, special confessions like that hardly come twice from the same person to the other person when turned down initially. Hence, all couples need to take time off their work and worldly pursuits to cuddle and rejoice in the intimacy of each other. Withholding or denying the urge to bond with your partner is a seed for infidelity or bad romance that turns both of you off into strange-bed fellows. Love making must not be explicitly used as a bargaining weapon to force compliance. If you know kissing the forehead of your partner makes them calm, reach out for it before and after a dispute and why not even mid-way in a heated debate!! The key to an open, sincere and forward moving relationship is communication and trust. Never forget to remind or tell your partner that you love them or you miss them.

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Requiem for the Cinema Business in Cameroon

14 Sep

By Nwanatifu Nwaco

Elsewhere, movies are released to theaters first before on portable storage, and it is the sale of tickets that sets records on movie successes, nominations for awards and bombs. I remember when one used to watch ‘Cine News’ on Cameroon national television for box office releases and show times for cinemas around the main cities of the country.
The most famous names in the business were cinema Abbia, Le Wouri, Paradis, Roxy and l’Empire. Then came the ”Video Club” which screened movies on 20 inch Tvs in small halls around neighbourhoods and markets. The coming of cheap CD/DVD players sent the home VHS-VCR players into extinction, gone were the days when kids crowded at a neighbours window to peep at a Bollywood or Nollywood movie shown in their living room. Most movie theaters have now been inherited by evangelical churches! In a country where there is the marked absence of youth and animation multipurpose show centres, sports complexes and conference halls have become surrogate screening rooms for movie premiers.
Pirated DVDs and VCDs imported from Asia and Nigeria haven’t done the industry any good as well. Walking at the ‘Poste Centrale’ in the capital Yaounde, one sees pornographic movies sold in plain gaze and access to minors and passerby’s. Age restrictions are not a thing of concern here, further exacerbated by the absence of a regulatory institution on the sale and viewing of audio-video contents.
There are yearly film festivals and exhibitions of locally made films but the ministry of culture nor the various syndicates or unions of actors and actresses has thought it wise to restart and open the cinemas. Private TV stations and cable TV distributors have also cut away large chunks of the cinema going cake. Recent box office releases are shown on these channels with impunity over the copyright abuses.Most locally produced films showtime premiers lack publicity and are mostly hard to find straight-to-DVD productions!! The most collectively viewed pictures on TV are tele-novellas and soap operas from Latin America and the East Indies. after the premier of a home produced movie at a conference hall, they are so afraid of piracy such that one has to rely on personally known actors to get a copy. The publicity is mostly based on social media. we need to invest in copy-protected encryption technology to curb the piracy of discs.

movie broadcast sector needs serious regulation! an active authority which controls the import, distribution and broadcast of copyright material. The unions of artists and actors need to take initiative to track and denounce producers and vendors of pirated material,whether its for home based productions or foreign movies. When we’ll have just licensed distributors selling movies then should we liberalize and regulate the opening up of cinema theaters. Local government councils can come in, private investors and a arts syndicates. Its an industry built around the scarcity of piracy and a perception of going to the cinema theater for fun and promotion of an industry which relies on ticket sales to fund new productions, just as we’re enthusiastic to go to our bars that litter every 2 metres on our streets. 

With the increase usage of smartphones, tablets, pads, more ownership of laptops, smart TVs and other multimedia gadgets from China finding their way into middle and low income homes, the death certificate of the cinema theater in Cameroon has been issued. Media downloading and file sharing has been embraced here actively aided by an increase internet awareness, usage and speedier bandwidth coupled with no authority to track down those downloading and selling copyrighted material online, there’s no iota of hope in sight to resurrect the cinema business.
Welcome to Cameroon where there is no cinema showroom, no cinema going culture for young and old couples, friends and families to go to and watch movies and experience the attractions of popcorn, chips, juices and other souvenirs around it. Very very few know of or have even experienced the thrills of 3D and Imax movie projection and optimized sound systems.

…THE DEATH OF THE CINEMA BUSINESS IN CAMEROON

Questions on Boko Haram in North Cameroon

14 Sep

By Nwanatifu Nwaco

News headlines in Cameroon today read that the Cameroon army had over the weekend killed over 100 Boko Haram militants as the group recoiled to to the Nigerian side of the border following an earlier assault on Cameroonian border communities. While this is hard to verify, it sure makes one have deeper respect for the Cameroon army and the response of the political elite of the country when one compares both to the Nigerian army and leadership’s handling of the insurgency.
The Islamisation of North Cameroon in the 19th Century was a feat achieved by Modibo Adama, a devout disciple of the Muslim Jihadist leader Usman Dan Fodio, whom acting on the blessings of the latter received flags to subdue the area then known as Foumbina stretching from the shores of Lake Chad as far down as the present sultanate of Foumban. This new Islamic emirate came to be known as Adamawa, so named after its founder spanning north east Nigeria and north Cameroon was and is still in some hierarchical order part of the antique Sokoto Caliphate.
Somehow the fear of being labelled anti-Muslim/Islamophobic is cowing many from labeling this group and its radical false ideology what it truly is; An Islamic Jihadist group seeking to found a caliphate like their comrades in arms and mentality are doing in Somalia, Iraq and Syria. Political correctness at its finest is preventing the liberal-secular mindset from being ruthless.
So my question is: Why are none of the so called “peaceful” Muslim states – Turkey, Indonesia, Malaysia, Saudi Arabia, Quatar, Egypt, the Gulf States, Pakistan, etc. sending troops to fight this Boko Haram in Nigeria or the blood thirsty ISIS in ‘Mesopotamia’, but they and their people certainly send funds and their young men support them in setting up Koranic schools to spread Wahabbi and Salafist brotherhoods which promise heavenly death to these narrow minded and impoverished fellows. Also notice the total silence from the American ranters in the likes Louis Farrakhan and his Black Muslim hand clappers of the Nation of Islam.
Cameroons human and territorial security is hanging on a very delicate life support, it’s yet to deal with the threat of two Ebola strands closing in from Nigeria in the west and another heading on through the south from DR Congo nor the the confessional mayhem infiltrating from Anti-Balaka and Seleka ragtags from Central Africa in the east and now this cowards of Boko Haram from the north. While Cameroonians are yet to reach hysteria point, lets pray to whatever animist or gods of other creeds that no bomb detonates in Yaounde, because that’s when all Cameroonians sociopolitical divisions and leanings either merge or disintegrate. No need to panic yet, the Cameroonians I met yesterday and today are still drinking beer and dancing Makossa.
Surely nothing puts me on guard and in fighting mode against anyone or group approaching me while reciting the following verses:

” Surah 8: I will throw fear into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Then smite the necks and smite of them each finger.”
” Qur’an 9:5: Kill the nonbelievers wherever you find them.”

Requiem for the Cinema in Cameroon

7 Sep

By  Nwanatifu Nwaco

Elsewhere, movies are released to theaters first before on portable storage, and it is the sale of tickets that sets records on movie successes, nominations for awards and bombs. I remember when one used to watch ‘Cine News’ on Cameroon national television for box office releases and show times for cinemas around the main cities of the country.
The most famous names in the business were cinema Abbia, Le Wouri, Paradis, Roxy and l’Empire. Then came the ”Video Club” which screened movies on 20 inch Tvs in small halls around neighbourhoods and markets. The coming of cheap CD/DVD players sent the home VHS-VCR players into extinction, gone were the days when kids crowded at a neighbours window to peep at a Bollywood or Nollywood movie shown in their living room. Most movie theaters have now been inherited by evangelical churches! In a country where there is the marked absence of youth and animation multipurpose show centres, sports complexes and conference halls have become surrogate screening rooms for movie premiers.
Pirated DVDs and VCDs imported from Asia and Nigeria haven’t done the industry any good as well. Walking at the ‘Poste Centrale’ in the capital Yaounde, one sees pornographic movies sold in plain gaze and access to minors and passerby’s. Age restrictions are not a thing of concern here, further exacerbated by the absence of a regulatory institution on the sale and viewing of audio-video contents.
There are yearly film festivals and exhibitions of locally made films but the ministry of culture nor the various syndicates or unions of actors and actresses has thought it wise to restart and open the cinemas. Private TV stations and cable TV distributors have also cut away large chunks of the cinema going cake. Recent box office releases are shown on these channels with impunity over the copyright abuses.Most locally produced films showtime premiers lack publicity and are mostly hard to find straight-to-DVD productions!! The most collectively viewed pictures on TV are tele-novellas and soap operas from Latin America and the East Indies.
With the increase usage of smartphones, tablets, pads, more ownership of laptops, smart TVs and other multimedia gadgets from China finding their way into middle and low income homes, the death certificate of the cinema theater in Cameroon has been issued. Media downloading and file sharing has been embraced here actively aided by an increase internet awareness, usage and speedier bandwidth coupled with no authority to track down those downloading and selling copyrighted material online, there’s no iota of hope in sight to resurrect the cinema business.
Welcome to Cameroon where there is no cinema showroom, no cinema going culture for young and old couples, friends and families to go to and watch movies and experience the attractions of popcorn, chips, juices and other souvenirs around it. Very very few know of or have even experienced the thrills of 3D and Imax movie projection and optimized sound systems.

…THE DEATH OF THE CINEMA BUSINESS IN CAMEROON

Reflections on Individuality and Convenience

1 Sep

By Nwanatifu Nwaco

Attitude is nothing but its everything that informs judgment and intuition, It is a futile enterprise trying to accommodate an irredeemable catalyst for failure. If your social approval rating is at a permanent 100% then you’re definitely doing the most wrong things the whole time. Error and mistake are the complex voluntary and involuntary realities that give meaning to their opposite attributes in human character and interaction. No one knows what’s best for you more than you do. As important as material possession can be, go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. With these you can in all wretchedness unlock the doors to your earthly wealth and affluence.

No map no matter how well the cartographer illustrated it is has ever taken its bearer one centimeter off the ground where they stand starring into it. Only the holder must while reading the map, take the very first step and then the next, braving through or across every land form along the path until the destination in mind and in view is arrived at. There’s a very good rationale to why all routes in life have two lanes: up and down, in and out, fast and slow, left and right, good and bad, angels and demons. Nothing humanly possible is static, everything changes and the relevance of good lies in the importance of its opposite which is evil, even this too cannot be totally subjective but is most of all relative to who serves and is being served it. The beauties in vices are the abilities to realize and accept shortcomings or to contradict and change constant virtues.

When one spends time seeing and living life entirely through the prism of others value systems and standards, they fail to set their own standards for others to live by or set in place principles that can propel them to the confines of the presumable happy hermit. It is not enough to be an altruist neither is it sufficient to be an egoist, hence one must in due course incorporate tolerance into their psyche and character. The bad news is that you cant please everyone or change the world entirely but you can at least do your best and hope that they find some convenience in it. In the words of Octavia Spencer, ”…You have to edify, educate and fulfill your own dreams and destiny, and hope that whatever your art is that you’re putting out there, if it’s received, great, I respect you for receiving it. If it’s not received, great, I respect you for not.”

Some people will always tell you what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did right or expect you to play an all-knowing God, remind yourself that you don’t need to prove yourself to everyone else to become like everyone else or do what everyone else doing, and you’ll free yourself and potentials to accomplish what matters most to you. Others will frequently criticize, discredit, disrespect and treat you poorly for no or for some apparent reason,but don’t consume yourself with self pity trying to change them or win their approval. An apology is always made out discretion, courtesy or remorse. In as much as the desire to be accepted by others matters, let it not become prime so much so that it interferes with your life and personal happiness if they withhold it from you.
You cannot do or get it right all the time, it’s okay to fail when success is evasive in the circumstances of your immediate situation. The path to most great things passes through failure. We reserve the right to incline or decline our convenience to either.

Have an amazing and happy September month my people.

With Excerpts from http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/11/24/7-reasons-to-stop-proving-yourself-to-everyone-else/