Reflections on Individuality and Convenience

1 Sep

By Nwanatifu Nwaco

Attitude is nothing but its everything that informs judgment and intuition, It is a futile enterprise trying to accommodate an irredeemable catalyst for failure. If your social approval rating is at a permanent 100% then you’re definitely doing the most wrong things the whole time. Error and mistake are the complex voluntary and involuntary realities that give meaning to their opposite attributes in human character and interaction. No one knows what’s best for you more than you do. As important as material possession can be, go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. With these you can in all wretchedness unlock the doors to your earthly wealth and affluence.

No map no matter how well the cartographer illustrated it is has ever taken its bearer one centimeter off the ground where they stand starring into it. Only the holder must while reading the map, take the very first step and then the next, braving through or across every land form along the path until the destination in mind and in view is arrived at. There’s a very good rationale to why all routes in life have two lanes: up and down, in and out, fast and slow, left and right, good and bad, angels and demons. Nothing humanly possible is static, everything changes and the relevance of good lies in the importance of its opposite which is evil, even this too cannot be totally subjective but is most of all relative to who serves and is being served it. The beauties in vices are the abilities to realize and accept shortcomings or to contradict and change constant virtues.

When one spends time seeing and living life entirely through the prism of others value systems and standards, they fail to set their own standards for others to live by or set in place principles that can propel them to the confines of the presumable happy hermit. It is not enough to be an altruist neither is it sufficient to be an egoist, hence one must in due course incorporate tolerance into their psyche and character. The bad news is that you cant please everyone or change the world entirely but you can at least do your best and hope that they find some convenience in it. In the words of Octavia Spencer, ”…You have to edify, educate and fulfill your own dreams and destiny, and hope that whatever your art is that you’re putting out there, if it’s received, great, I respect you for receiving it. If it’s not received, great, I respect you for not.”

Some people will always tell you what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did right or expect you to play an all-knowing God, remind yourself that you don’t need to prove yourself to everyone else to become like everyone else or do what everyone else doing, and you’ll free yourself and potentials to accomplish what matters most to you. Others will frequently criticize, discredit, disrespect and treat you poorly for no or for some apparent reason,but don’t consume yourself with self pity trying to change them or win their approval. An apology is always made out discretion, courtesy or remorse. In as much as the desire to be accepted by others matters, let it not become prime so much so that it interferes with your life and personal happiness if they withhold it from you.
You cannot do or get it right all the time, it’s okay to fail when success is evasive in the circumstances of your immediate situation. The path to most great things passes through failure. We reserve the right to incline or decline our convenience to either.

Have an amazing and happy September month my people.

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